Expect the Unexpected When You’re Expecting

Originally published on 10/13/2010

When I was pregnant with my first child, I read every book about pregnancy and labor that I could find. For a while, until I actually went into labor, my favorite was What to Expect When You’re Expecting, hereafter referred to as WTEWYE. I devoured that book in a single sitting and afterwards I was convinced that I knew everything there was to know about pregnancy and labor. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

On the day I would eventually go into labor, I awoke feeling a little bit off…not really ill, but just not quite myself and I had a dull ache in my back. I dragged myself out of bed, went to the bathroom and was startled to find I had LOST MY MUCUS PLUG. Oh-my-gosh. There it was. I’d been anticipating this milestone that signals the start of labor ever since I’d read about it in WTEWYE. Let me tell you something. Except for mucus there was not a single word printed in that book that could have prepared me for the sight of that thing. This was in the days before cell phones, so I paged my husband, Pat. Given the stage of my pregnancy, he called back immediately. read more

IYCSSN

Originally posted in September 2010

IYCSSN. The Rule.

If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. It is likely you’ve been given this advice at one time or another, and probably it came from your mother. I’ll bet Cain and Abel heard it from Eve and I know I heard it from my own mother. The idea is as old as time. In fact, I would say it’s right up there with the Golden Rule in terms of importance when it comes to how we treat others.

I passed on this advice to my own children as they were growing up whenever a situation called for it. My sons are now 15 and 19 years old. I am happy to say they are becoming fine young gentlemen and as one would expect by this time, their manners and social graces are deeply ingrained. At this point, I find myself only every so often needing to make gentle reminders about things of this nature. read more

Universal Mother Truth

Originally published 9/22/2010

When I think about my life, and I compare the things I’d hoped to accomplish with the things I actually have done, I realize by most standards I am nothing short of ordinary. I did not coach a world champion. I never got around to writing that novel. I never made it to graduate school. In fact, all of my plans were abruptly stalled when I became a mother. Motherhood caught me off guard. I never expected to immerse myself into life as the stay-at-home-uber-queen-of-the carpool I have become. I am Mama, Mommy, Mom, and at times Maaahh-uuum, complete with eye roll. read more